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A very basic lesson in persuasion is you should try to make your interlocutor believe that he has come to the conclusion you were trying to impose on him by himself.

(Telling this to a would-be salesman is like telling a sprinter to "run fast.")

If you can "coat" your advice in the guise of the other person's discovery, they'll take it for sure.

Another instance in which people take advice is when it comes from a close, trusted, and respected friend or mentor.

The contrapositive is also true. This is why teens do not take advice from the high school health teacher.

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Every once in a long while, in a situation where I'm being particularly indecisive and I can't make up my mind about some low-stakes decision, I've been known to flip a coin to help me decide. As far as I can tell, I follow the results of the coin toss roughly half the time, and the other times I go against the flip. From introspection, I've come to believe that the reason I value that coin toss is because it gets me to model the consequences of the decision with more immediacy.

Suddenly it's a matter of: "now this coin toss is going to make me walk out of this store with these boring oatmeal cookies, and I can almost feel them in my mouth right now, and they are going to be bland and dry"

...instead of: "Hmm...oatmeal or fudge-pistachio? How ever will I pick?"

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