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i'm surprised, this very precise concept was treated by Chesterton in one the Father Brown short stories. how personal hapiness can make other people miserable. The storie is called the "the three tools of death"

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I don't think it's "I'm upset by your happiness" as much as "I'm depressed because my happiness is so low compared to how happy everyone around me seems to be". No one is suggesting that other people should be less happy; I think they're just noting that pretending to be happy (in order to fit in, etc) does impose a "cost" on others.

Whether this "cost" is sufficient to justify changing our behavior is a completely separate question - and one which pretty much has to be a subjective, personal, decision. After all, it's not like "pretending to be happier than you really are" could be a crime - or even a socially-disapproved-of state of mind.

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