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r€nato's avatar

We've all certainly heard of women who feel like they are entitled to the attentions - sexual and otherwise - of *specific* men. That is called, 'jealousy', and of course men and women engage in it in proportions that can fairly be said to be roughly equal.

I've *never* heard of the phenomenon where certain women feel like they are entitled in general to the sexual services of men, and become bitterly angry over the lack of it... even to the point of seeing themselves as an oppressed minority, as well as having violent fantasies and homicidal rampages to 'settle the score'.

In fact, I would bet the 'incel' phenomenon doesn't exist among the LGBTQ population either. Incels think they have it rough? Imagine being a transsexual in Trump's America and trying to find love and companionship, or even just 'plain old' sex that isn't for pay or humiliating and degrading.

The 'incel' community is exclusively a hetero male phenomenon, and a testimony to the reality of toxic masculinity in our still-patriarchic culture.

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Missy Wernstrom's avatar

I have to admit to being astonished by how many, including the esteemed GM professor, seem to have missed the point of why some men (and I suppose some women) are not finding partners. It seems less likely to be about looks and clothes. The problem incels are having seems to me to stem more from their having difficulty in dealing with other humans. The Toronto guy was pathologically unable to be around girls. This is the actual problem. I suspect that Elliot Rodger was well dressed enough. He was also creepy as hell and had trouble connecting to people his entire life. Incels turn an internal problem into an external one and most of the response to that has been to entirely miss it. These fundamentally unwell people are not getting help to deal with their hideously skewed perspectives on themselves and others. Women seem unlikely to be into guys who run from them, who are weird and off putting. That seems unlikely to end simply because they hit the gym.

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