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Hmmm... don't know. If you can't get away with being on call 24/7, you certainly have a strange combination of being low status enough, so that interrupting you is cheap, yet being high-status enough that you're needed all the time.Hospital interns?If your boss can interrupt you during family dinner time, that's not a general problem with "work at home".Unreasonable expectations and a lack of boundaries, more like. Those aren't a necessary part of the concept.

I think a lot of it is people not being needed on call 24/7 but they got addicted to the dopamine hits of push messages and checking their emails constantly.Push messages are on by default with any messaging service and many people don't know or care to change their settings.Also whenever you're uncertain about what to do next..... just check your email and there's possibly some relevant input! Mostly there's not, but when there is..... payoff. So there's a gambling aspect to it.Also.... bing, bing.... oh my.... what could it be?! Intrigue, mystery, suspense..... most of the time it's irrelevant, but then once in a while..... something really cool!I'm seeing this behaviour in students, that definitely don't need to be on call. But they check their phones all the time. Info hygiene just isn't a super obvious concept, since all this tech is fairly new.Though I think people figure this out eventually.

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tl;dr: Your model of there being one variable called "restfulness" is too simple.

They [the many tasks you could switch to] may not be comparatively restful to a nap, according to the chart. But when in the grips of restlessness, you can't really take a nap, because your thoughts would just run on without end.

So you'd need the comparison chart for how restful each option is for those who end up not taking the seemingly restful option.

The introvert taking a break from people stuff might get an experience of rest, that's not needed/necessary or available for the extrovert who never gets tired of them.

Doing physical chores like folding laundry or dealing with dishes is probably the most restful thing on the list for me sometimes.It's useful, but non-stimulating.That's not quite it. TV and reading novels is arguably more relaxing in that my pulse would probably drop more, but that's also very dulling. And they are also memetic hazards, because they will create running loops and fantasies that pop up as distractions later.Video games are very energizing, but they reliably lead only to more and more video gaming.

Maintaining a consistent mental state isn't exactly easy. And if you fail at it totally, you can't self-predict, thus you can't plan, thus everything goes wrong, sideways or backwards. So you failed at uncertainty minimization hence you get stressed out.Worst case, you get ingrained flinch reactions at facing what's necessary.If none of that is relatable, well you see.... pretty sure, that the meaning of rest is more complicated and varies by individual.

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