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Abby S's avatar

Cuckoldry is adultery. No need to give it a special name when it's women doing it. And rape is much, much worse than female adultery, which involves two consenting adults and deceit. Rape involves imposing sexual acts on a person who has not given consent. Infidelity leads to divorce. Rape leads (should lead) to prison. Ask Genevieve Pelicot if she thinks they're equal.

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Tobi Lawson's avatar

Cuckoldry is NOT adultery. Cuckoldry is having a child fathered by another man that is not your pair-bonded partner. And we can debate the Cuckoldry - Rape equivalence, but we can at least agree neither involves consent.

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Robin Hanson's avatar

In my controversial post, I made clear this is what I meant by "cuckoldry".

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Patrick's avatar

I'd much prefer to be raped than it turn out my children are not mine. This is the majority opinion of men.

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Cormac C.'s avatar

I think the difference to me is that one is something where the trauma is ultimately in my head, it is in my wheelhouse and I can kinda pretend it doesn't exist.

The other is permanent and immutable in a truly final way. A betrayal by the person who I deeply love that also fundamentally rewrites my life story, and also means that the child I thought was mine literally looks like the person that they cheated on me with, and the fundamental building blocks of that child belong to someone else.

It isn't much of a contest to me, TBQH.

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Anne's avatar

"This is the majority opinion of men" who don't for a moment believe they actually run the risk of being raped.

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Garry Perkins's avatar

You have never met a significant number of men. They never admit to what happened. They cannot, especially to a woman.

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Patrick's avatar

I don't for a moment believe my children aren't mine either, infact the rate of father's having children who they believe are theirs but aren't is lower than the rate of male victim rape.

Ignore and disregard the opinion of men as much as you like though, you'll have a sad and bitter life.

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